“Get Your Heart-On Before You Get Your Hard-On” Benefits of Tantra For Men -New Program (Online and In-Person) with Michelle Alva, Sacred Intimacy and Transformational Mindset Mentor
This Blog Post is dedicated to all men, and the men and women who wish to be more amazing lovers to their man. If you are curious as to how to be the most epic lover and share the most transcendent love and sex with your man, the journey begins within.
I have dedicated my life to learning how to be the most amazing lover for myself, how to be my own best friend, and how to be my biggest cheerleader for myself. I have chosen this path after learning I was in a co-dependent relationship where I was looking for love OUTSIDE of myself.
I would allow how others treated me to affect how much love I experienced within myself. I gave all my power away to others and played the victim role. I would blame my husband and others for my feelings. I didn’t know any better. This led me to be in a relationship where I was so hard on myself and others. I was “toxic”… I eventually got divorced as I could not continue to pretend I was happy. I had to make a change in my life. The change I was truly seeking was within me. I wanted so badly to divorce the version of myself I had become that was so misaligned to my true self. So on October 2011 I set on a journey to discovering how to love myself after my divorce was final. And it took me years of therapy and taking a bunch of self-development courses and trainings in yoga, tantra, NLP, hypnosis, meditation, shamanism, Theta Healing, belly dance, pranic healing, therapeutic touch, craniosacral therapy, timeline dynamics, access consciousness healing, and PSYCH-K, to name a few, in order for me to see the light. I have taken many courses with Dr Joe Dispenza, Dr. Bruce Lipton, and Gregg Braden. Donna Eden, Louise Hay and Wayne Dyer, were also big influences in my transformational journey.
And what alll this taught me that I was the one I was looking for all along, and that I was the one and only who was creating my perception and reality due to the meaning I gave to all that I experienced. I used to blame others for my life and happiness. Today I am a sovereign being. I command my sexual, creative, and healing-life force energy. Today I own that “I Am Love”… and I also know that “We are One”, we all affect each other and we all matter, we all are interconnected beings. My wish is to love it all, accept it all, grow from all my experiences, and be of service, to share the wisdom from my wounds, to transform pain to pleasure, and guide others as I have discovered within how to have the most transcendent and sacred, spiritual sex of my life.
I am passionate about teaching men, women, and couples HOW to open our hearts, let go of the hurts of the past in our body tissues, and cultivate a growth and loving mindset in our bodies. We attract how we feel.
For any woman or man who wishes to love their man, here are a few steps to take on this path. Remember this journey begins within.
I was raised Catholic, and I married my high-school sweet heart, who I met when I was 15 years old. We started dating when I was 17, and got married when I was 25 years old. I was with this man for 20 years. We divorced when I was 38 years old.
I never learned about sacred sexuality, or how important it was to see myself as a divine creation, and for sure I didn’t see my husband that way.
I am so grateful to have studied Tantra and became a Tantra Practitioner as a way of discovering how to connect my own heart with my own sexuality. I feel these two were disconnected most of my life. I experienced a first traumatic sexual experience that I didn’t really want to happen. I was so lonely and wanted attention. My father had left to Peru after my parent’s divorce and I was starving for attention from daddy. So the pain of missing my dad led me to want attention from this teenager. I see today how my daughter at this same age, was so different than me who was boy crazy, because she has a father, who is a provider, a protector, and there for her.
I see how starved I was as a young teen, I was so sad, I missed my dad, and couldn’t tell my mom this as she was so happy he was gone. Holding in all those emotions caused me to become a dissociated and depressed teen.
I used to be afraid of men, I used to think men just wanted something from me, sex, attention, and love. I thought sex was love. I used sex as a way of manipulating, and getting what I wanted.
Today, I work with men, and have amazing clients who wish to learn, just like I did, how to unite our heart, with our sexuality, and to experience this as a sacred and spiritual experience. I love sex, I love my creative and sexual body. I appreciate so much the aliveness that permeates through my body. In yoga, we call this prana. It is also called Kundalini energy, creative life-force energy. We all have it, and the more our heart is open, the more we have forgiven, the more we accept, and appreciate ourselves, and others, the more electrically charged our heart is. The heart supplies the blood to the sexual organs as the whole body. A man’s penis is extra hard and erect when he is deeply in his heart. This is what I have noticed time and time again. When a man feels safe, secure, confident, present, creative, loves himself, accepts himself (the same goes for a woman), he feels his sexual energy. Our sexual energy is our energy of love also. Love and sexual energy were meant to flow and expand TOGETHER. This is what a lot of people don’t realize. This is why “casual sex” never feels as delicious and holy, sacred and blissful as deeply loving, intimate, and transcendent sex. (Schedule a breakthrough call Here: https://calendly.com/alvamethod/30min
if you like to learn HOW to experience the best transcendent sex of your life.
I have been inspired to create a program for men and for their lovers to learn the steps to be sensual, sexually alive, creatively connected, and spiritually enriched. You get to learn also about the magic of your prostate if you desire to, how to have whole-body orgasms, and semen retention. Men can have multiple orgasms, men can feel so energized from this experience, and look radiant, full of vitality, and so inspired to create and take action in their lives in the most heart-led way.
If all men on the planet learned these secrets to epic ecstatic experiences which come from within, I don’t think we would have as much porn use, porn abuse, and erectile dysfunction.
Men would feel more empowered, energized, and fulfilled in all areas of their lives, because how we sex is how we EVERYTHING.
Here are a few beautiful ways to support men on the path of awakening to our creative life force energy. Schedule a call with me to learn more how to work with me either virtually, online via zoom, or in-person. I also am available to travel to your private location, and offer deep dive retreats, weekend immersions, and group experiences too for couples. Let’s talk and create what is best for you, you and your partner or group!
How to Begin The Steps to Support Men to benefit from Deeper Intimacy and Connection with Tantra and The Alva Method:
1.Tantric Eye Gazing https://youtu.be/veQPXTTDdBI?si=snGqYJU7so7QT4-j
2.Heart-Prostate Connection Meditation: Men, lay down naked and listen to this mediation to connect your heart with your sexual energy https://youtu.be/V_WBaKrkHzg?si=LKRFDJuFRNe6lZ3c
3.Sacred Surrender: Click HERE https://youtu.be/CAVhpFEfE1U?si=eirBjA0-plXndAfS to watch this video and if you wish to learn more, click here to receive the Deeper Connection: Tantra For Couples Video Series: https://www.conscioussexacademy.com/deeper-connection-register
4. Tantric Lingham Massage: Sacred Sexual Massage for men. Watch this video here https://youtu.be/wH8rEJ8SFoY?si=Ddp-6wX-kQCJ7djx and contact Michelle Alva by scheduling a call to learn more how to give and receive a lingham massage at https://calendly.com/alvamethod/30min
Practice these different ways to enrich the love you give to yourself and your partner, and let me know how it benefits you!
We are all sacred and divine beings who are so worthy of being loved. Remember that the love you receive is based on the love you experience WITHIN.
If you would like to learn more, schedule a phone call, as this is the first step for me to learn more how to support you on your journey.
Testimonials from Men who have worked with Michelle Alva:
“I began going to Michelle because I was feeling blocked in my relationships and she came highly recommended by a mentor of mine. I knew there was something blocking me from being fully sexually expressed.
Tantra reveals to you any blocks you have to intimacy and it revealed mine. I discovered I was carrying around a lot of shame due to my Catholic upbringing. Through my sessions with Michelle, I learned to own my sexual energy. I finally felt free to be myself, and thus, my partner finally felt free to be herself without judgement and this reignited our passion. We were now both able to let our sexual energy flow freely without fear of judgment & shame.
Michelle showed me what it felt like to be treated like a King, which was instrumental in beginning to create the kind of relationship I wanted. Working with her allowed me to show up as the King I was born to be. It’s difficult to sum up everything Michelle helped me with.
We worked with NLP, mindset, removing emotional blocks, physical blocks, showing me that sexual energy was not just in the lower body but can be felt and moved throughout your whole body & your heart, to be present, to be more sensual & so much more. She really loves what she does and cares deeply for people.” Ricardo B.
“I was repeatedly abused for 14 yrs, 11 of these years were my father beating me with belts and most often boards. At 6yrs old I made the conscious decision to never let him make me cry again. I learned to clench my ass as tight as I could, this along with an angry will decreased the physical pain. These beatings always were only accompanying the real assaults, the words of shame, blame, assassination and anything that could instill fear and belief of being a failure or worse.
When Michelle Alva worked with me, she addressed my perineum and anal sphincters, the exact muscles that for years held those trapped words of terror and shame. When she released those muscles and did the work she does, I was free! It was the most amazing thing! I instantly felt free! It felt to me like one of those big X-ray film plates was slid out of me and it unlocked my real brightness. I also had a spontaneous vision at this clearing of a gigantic plug being blown out of my anus & as it hit the floor, I could see the dust of all the rage and anger and the smoke of the pain that I had held for decades.
I feel such a lightness. I feel like I am taller and bigger. I have a confidence and comfort that I’ve not felt in me. I am grateful for Michelle’s kindness, patience & great work.”-Joe P
“For much of my life I carried deep sexual shame that caused me to question my own sexual worthiness. As a product of incest, a more politically correct term for a father raping his daughter, I lived with the guilt and shame that the act of my conception was an act of violence against a woman, but not just any woman, my sister who would become my mother by giving birth to me. I vowed that I would never do that to any woman, so I became the nice guy who had normal desires but felt an overwhelming sense of guilt and shame at the very thought of initiating sex with my wife and then other women after my divorce.
When I started working with Michelle, I found in her woman who understood me, my guilt and shame and my fear of doing harm to women. She listened to me as I shared my story and I felt her warmth and kindness. We worked through the many layers of shame and guilt that had taken up residence in my body. I felt safe in her care and the tantra and ALVA Method sessions helped me begin to come back into my body. After working with her I felt proud to be a man and truly own my desires for the first time in my life.
Whether you are a man or a woman, and you experience sexual shame, Michelle can help you return to your natural, innocent, God-given desires. Now I know I am worthy of that and I know you are too.”
-Lynn E.